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Relationships are indeed fragile. Normally the longer the relationship exists the more robust it is.
I did loose one of my best friends, just pure based on distance. We grew up together, played football, tennis, were each other best mans and still this relationship doesn't exists anymore. Nothing was said, nothing was done, we just grew apart. When you look back, the weekly phone calls are skipped from time to time, then it turns more in a monthly call, up to a point that you just give up and he probably did the same.

Here on Hive there can be indeed a lot of drame. I just try to avoid that, but I will be just me. Take it or leave it.

Votes come and go, you can't control them, but relationships are a different thing. However, people change in time and you can't change them back, so losing good friends happen as well. It's sad, but when you get to a point where the damage is greater than the good things, better let go.

I feel like with how polarized people are nowadays and social media and how crazy politics and religion can be people are just one comment away from ending relationships.

Its unfortunate, sorry you guys are going through that

That's a tough one when it's someone you've been friends with for a long time. We've had those seasons of friendships that come and go and while it's not always something dramatic that fractures the relationship, it still can be painful. Sometimes its just life timing, jobs, kids, change of interests or other. Recently just had one make a full circle where someone we were close friends with, who then ebbed out of being quite as close, to back to being somewhat close friends again. It's odd how that happens sometimes.

Good to hear things are well with the friend you eat fish with. Too bad your schedules didn't jive to do it more. Understand about the other friend you and your wife share. My wife andI are the same. We have a small circle as well and it is becoming smaller. So I understand what you say about how it hurts when a friendship doesn't work out anymore. We are kind of losing a friend we have had for many years. Not sure how it has happened, but we are just drifing apart. There are many reasons for it and I won't go into it here, but it no matter it still hurts.

As far as Hive. I have been thining a great deal on that lately. I have been trying to expand who I engage with and cutting some off. As far as votes, they are cool and all, but more interested in engagement.

You are really just one mistake or one misunderstanding away from everything you have worked for over the years to suddenly be gone.

I think this is not really true, you can recover from most mistakes here. There are reasonable people here who would plead your case if there is a misunderstanding.

From experience, people that "lost" everything did not lose it because they did one mistake or one misunderstanding. They did a mistake, maybe a misunderstanding, but then doubled down on that mistake and continued to double down each time.

Relationships can be hard to maintain. Sometimes friends are lost for many reasons…distance, fights, not sharing the same interests anymore. I definitely understand how tough it can be when this happens… it’s hard to keep the connection when one side loses interest, and you definitely notice. In my case, it’s happened both ways… but I must say, I never looked at Hive this way before… and you are right…just a small misunderstanding. I use it as my way of relief, like a journal, yes. But it would still be bad if there weren’t any more readers for my posts. I love talking about what I write, and there’s no point in being fake…I mean…what’s the point of writing then?
Everything happens for a reason, so… Mr. and Mrs. stay strong!

I hope that the friendship can be mended. But I totally get it. I’ve had many friends over my many years on this earth. They’ve come and gone. Things change, people move, interests change, life happens. I have a very small circle of friends. I like it that way. I’m a very direct unfiltered person. I don’t waste time on bullshit, time is too valuable to me. I like having fun and doing things, I’ve worked too hard and too long not to.
As far as the blockchain I’ve made a handful of really good friends here. I’ve met up with several of them and I’m actually meeting up with another this summer in California. I went and visited Summertooth and Dfinney last year in Oregon. We had a great time and got to share Crater Lake and the Oregon coast together. If friendship is that fragile it’s not a friendship, eggshells is not friendship.
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I have decided that I prefer lightly breaded perch over beer batter cod, but this was still really good for he price.

I prefer crumbed fish too. It is hard enough to get half decent fish and chips in Finland though, let alone crumbed. In Australia it is easy as, though normal is beer batter of course. I was spoiled in Cairns though, because the fish was so bloody awesome everywhere.

On the flip side, if you have to walk around on eggshells and not be your true self, is it really worth it?

The problem with many relationships, isn't it? People are so sensitive that they can't take criticism or potential criticism, nor can they stand by without reacting to anything that makes them feel uncomfortable, making them criticise others. Fragile situations for sure.

I prefer to do what I do and let the chips fall where they may. Hopefully they fall next to a piece of crumbed barramundi and some decent tartare sauce.

I always love some good fish! Not Catholic either, but living in the tropics I got spoiled with so much fresh fish. Shame you won't have a chance to get together again this year, but that's just how life work. Busy schedules everywhere.

Relationships are very fragile and it doesn't take much to screw them up if you aren't careful. Some people are overly sensitive in my opinion, and you do have to walk on egg shells around them. I tend to avoid spending much time with those folks... Sorry to hear the wife is having a rough time with a friend, it happens. Hot messes are never fun to deal with, and I hope she gets through this one OK!

Same thing here on Hive, some people are way to sensitive and get offended easily. I don't, I don't see a reason to honestly. But I have seen people stop talking to one another over tiny disagreements or misunderstandings here on Hive. It's sad to see, but part of the ecosystem in the end I suppose...

Saludos, @bozz. Sé de lo que hablas. Aquí he conocido gente que luego ha dado la espalda o ha pretendido timarme. Duele, claro que duele. Pero con los años uno aprende que a veces es preferible estar solo. Tengo entrenamiento en la soledad, veinte años de oficio me lo permitieron.

Cuando el círculo es chico, cada pérdida deja un hueco que no se llena con nada. Y lo más jodido es esa incertidumbre de no saber cómo seguir, sabiendo que lo de antes ya no volverá.

Pero algo me dice que ustedes van a estar bien. Porque cuando uno ya sabe lo que es estar solo, las relaciones se vuelven elección, no necesidad. Y eso, aunque no quite el dolor, al menos devuelve el control.

Un abrazo grande para los dos.

Adoro el pescado de cualquier tipo. Pienso que cada persona que llega a nuestra vida tiene una función, muchos se quedan, otros se van. Algunos vienen para aportarnos algo y otros para llevarse algo. Pero de todos se aprende. La amistad verdadera puede tener algún mal entendido, sin embargo, como es verdadera siempre van a encontrar la manera de solucionar, hablar, resolver. Y eso mismo se los deseo a ustedes. Muchos éxitos en la vida y que sigan creciendo en la plataforma. Un abrazo desde La Habana, Cuba.

You are really just one mistake or one misunderstanding away from everything you have worked for over the years to suddenly be gone

Isn't that a waste?

As long as you have each other you don't really need anyone else...

Sorry to hear about the friend thing. That sucks and I am sure we have all been through similar things. What will be will be is the way I view things. As for the relationship with HIVE it is what it is, but yes Hive the ecosystem, I think it is not so much you making a wrong move as someone taking a dislike to you and ruining the experience for you.