HiveComb

Growing up I'd always been the shy timid one, the one everyone was always happy to be around. I was fun too if we got really close and it meant a lot of people were around me, and that also meant a lot of people tried to take me for granted. I most of the time just ignored whatever they did to me because I didn't really know how to reach and certainly didn't want to react.

There's something that a lot of people don't know though, the fact that someone wears a smile everyday doesn't mean the person can't get angry. I hear that quiet people usually have anger issues because there's a lot that they keep to themselves and when the time reaches when they cannot take it any more they end up blowing up. It got to that stage for me and I found myself blowing up and this time it wasn't a nice sight, I almost broke my sister's head with a mortar.

From then on I don't know it sort of took over me. I always knew I had it in me because my dad used to get really angry and when he did he'll usually break things, and after he'd let it all out and he comes back to his senses he'll become really embarrassed. Being a teenager wasn't easy though especially when you're in school and everyone just wants to take advantage of you or make jest of you especially if you looked really weak.

On a certain day I actually did flair up in school and this time it was worth it. A usual bully picked me to be at the center of his games that day. He kept taking my stuff without permission and when i confronted him about it, he just made jests and pushed me. At first I didn't react because I never want to be the school's bad books but then he took my notebook and tore it. I couldn't hold it any more and this time I was so angry that you could feel the steam coming out of my body. I didn't even know when I threw a chair at him and pounced on him.

Long story short, he survived and I got called to the principal's office. It wasn't that serious a case because everyone knew me for my good behavior and when I explained my side of the story I got away easily. After that day he avoided bullying any one again and we became really close friends.

As bad as getting angry is, they'll always be times when you just need to get angry, let it all out, let that rage leave you. But we'll need to learn to control our anger because nothing good comes with being angry. Like the Hulk anger destroys everything in it's part. The funny thing is when you come back to your senses you'll regret ever doing what you did when you were angry. They're other ways to handle situations apart from flaring up and saying hurtful things that you'll regret.

I developed a technique to help me control my anger. Whenever I get angered by someone, instead of saying whatever hurtful things that threaten to explode from much chest, I just walk away. I'll just take a stroll and then scroll through my gallery to find a song that'll sooth my soul. If I can't find any song, I'll just keep walking and venting to myself till I get calm, it works every time and it saves a lot of stress.

But notwithstanding anger can be a very useful tool if we channel it right. Some people have remained at a spot because they've not become angry enough to get out of that situation. The best way to succeed in live is to become angry of your current situation, whenever you remember what you've gone through that anger should be a driving force every step of the way. It has worked for me a number of times before and it still works.

There was this course in school that kept giving me trouble. I didn't fail it though but I was barely escaping failing the course and we had to face this course till our year three. When I saw my year two first semester result in that course i got really angry, why would an A student be barely getting a D. That anger actually stirred me up to read more on the course, I made my own research, seeked advice from senior colleagues that had aced the course and I became well armed. At the end of the semester my result came out and I did exceptionally well.

So anger can surely be used for good if it's channelled the right way. Instead of beating people up or doing hurtful things that'll make others resent us we can channel that anger into making a change, surely it is possible.

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