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Most times when people ask me what I want to change about myself, I usually tell them that I don't have anything because I love and admire the woman I have grown to become, but recently I realized that I do have something I really want to change about myself.

I realized I easily give people second chances to prove themselves whenever they say or do something to me or anyone else because I believe everyone deserves a second chance in life. I have this assumption that they might have changed. While this trait might seem good and beneficial in some situations, it often leads me to disappointment and heartache.

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The reason why I believe that people should be given a second chance is because of my belief in people's inherent goodness. Unfortunately, this has to some extent clouded my judgment, causing me to overlook red flags and ignore warning signs.

In 2023 I gave a church member who's a seamstress clothes to sew for me for my neighbor's wedding. This was almost two months before the wedding, and I made full payment that same day. She promised to sew the dress in two weeks time, but she didn't; she kept giving me different excuses. That was how the clothes stayed with her for a good six months. I had to report her to my pastor's wife before she sewed the clothes, and what she did was rubbish; she changed the style. This year she told me she had changed, so I gave her a second chance and gave my clothes to her the second week of January this year with full payment, and she hasn't sewn the clothes to date; she keeps giving me different excuses.

She isn't the first person that has taken my second chance for granted and has hurt and betrayed me, and I think it's time for me to reevaluate my approach. Not everyone deserves a second chance because I might just be enabling their behavior and putting myself at risk.

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